I read something the other day that rocked my world and set me back on my heels. Let me dig it out … 2 ticks …
Damn – can’t find it online.
It was on the back cover of a book called The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness by Mark Williams, John D. Teasdale, Zindel V. Segal, Jon Kabat-Zinn (yeah, I cut and pasted that). Two more ticks – I’ll have to go downstairs to fetch the book …
Well bugger me – it’s not on the cover of that book! Must have seen it inside when I opened it at random.
Anyway, the gist of it is this – when you’re depressed, the worst thing to do is to try to think about it or get to grips with it using logic, because this just makes you more depressed (some fancy phrase like ‘deepens the cycle of depression’ was used).
What it advocated instead was basically acknowledging those (depressing) thoughts, but then just putting them to one side and thinking about something else instead.
Sounds simple don’t it, but I tell you – it opened my eyes until they squeaked! I mean – all that time I spent filling journal after journal with my thoughts, justifications and explanations and all of that stuff – all wasted?
I thought to myself ‘nah – surely not – I learnt stuff about myself – and learning is always good, right?’
But then I remembered the times that I was truly happy, and it was always when I was thinking about something else, engaged in something different – things like enjoying a marvellous sunset, walking by the river, curling up somewhere warm and cosy with a good book, talking with friends about shit and just laughing and laughing and laughing.
Makes me wonder why I spent so much time chasing ghosts around my own mind.
Makes me wonder why I’m here, tapping away on my keyboard.
But then I remember you, dear reader. This is for you. I hope it means something to you. Something useful.
(inspired by a post that Joss wrote – https://she-who-hears.net/2017/04/28/meta-post/ (sorry, Joss – I nicked back the comment I wrote on your blog))