Seems to me that it’s not what you say, or even the way that you say it that gets results, it’s the way that you make people feel after you’ve said it.
Many people think the key to success in interpersonal communication is to say informative things in an interesting or entertaining way. But it seems that there’s more to it than that.
You can tell your audience (or family, or friends) the most fascinating things in the world, but that don’t mean a damn to them if you don’t make them feel good in the process.
Tell them the moon is made of blue cheese, and prove it with endless formulae, unimpeachable experimental data but chances are they might only remember you until the next big thing comes along.
However – make them feel like dancing all night from the free samples of blue cheese flavoured emotions, or have them singing your praises at the top of their lungs by virtue of your full-moon silvered feelings and you will light up their hearts and be remembered until … well, maybe until mid next week!
What more could you want than that? 🙂
Oh. You want to know how to do that? Ah, okay. Then just let me read some more of this here book (It’s Not What You Say, It’s the Way You Say It! – Michael Parker) and as soon as I’ve got to that part, I’ll let you know more.
In the middle of writing this, I went on a call with my team. Part of that involved all team members introducing themselves to the rest of us. By the time I had finished talking about myself, several of the team members were laughing. I regarded this as a success because they ended up feeling happy. Maybe they’ll remember me fondly for that. Let’s see.
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Hey, I’m glad you like it! 🙂 Not as many photos as on your blog, but I guess it’s a start.
How’s your day going there?
Robert.
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I’m fine and you? Comment on my pictures !!! Kisses !!!
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I’m good, thanks. I just need to pee and I’ll feel even better. 🙂
What would you like me to say about your pictures? The way they make me feel? How honest would you like me to be? What effect are you aiming for?
Too many questions, huh!
Kindness – Robert.
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Ooh, glad your presentation went well. “It’s Not What You Say…” sounds like a good book. In my own adventures with people, I’ve found that remembering small details about people helps, and trying to “hack” what they know is really beneficial-it not only pleases the person you’re talking to and gets the conversation going, but you can gain weirdly specific knowledge about areas that you don’t have the time/interest to pursue in depth.
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That’s a really good tip, Joss – I like that lots! Actually, it’s strange that you should bring that up because I was just about to ask you for the password to your psyche. Coincidence, or what! 🙂
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Bahaha. 🙂 All my actual passwords are random letter/number combos. Paranoia Level 10.
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Ha – yeah, that’s paranoia, in truth! 😉
Ironic that your psyche is only held shut by one of those little padlocks that are ten for a pound (insert currency of your choice) at the hardware store. 😀
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I think you might be on to something there….making people feel good after you have said things to them. Laughter is always great medicine.
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Passion, love, devotion, tingly feelings – they are all good for me too. 😀
Sorry – that must have come over as a bit pervy – deep apologies, Lana.
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I try hard to think through what to say before I say it.
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I wish I had that skill. The most I get is a pause between the neurons in my visual cortex firing and a signal rushing down my nerves to the fingertips hovering over these keys. And it ain’t a long pause neither.
But hey, is it tomorrow already there?
That must mean that you’re in the future!
Quick, check which horse won the 2:30 at Kempton!
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As you saw – I don’t really think so hard before I ‘speak’. 🙂
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Nice! I can relate! Thanks!😊
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Thanks for visiting and reading – appreciate that.
Kindness – Robert.
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