Who angers or disappoints you? What is it about them that you didn’t like or still don’t like?
Ernesto “Che” Guevara angers and disappoints me. I don’t like that I can’t seem to get over the feeling that this person is intruding into my life. That I can’t seem to be able to explain myself to them, no matter how hard I try. That I can’t cope with the anger I feel when our interactions go awry.
How do you want them to change? What do you want them to do?
I want them to be a little more aware of my triggers – the ones that make me sad or angry.
What is it that they should or shouldn’t do, be, think, or feel?
They shouldn’t be angry about my inconsistencies – I’m flawed enough within myself without having the deal with the extra burden of making other people angry.
Do you need anything from them? What do they need to give you or do in order for you to be happy?
I just need to be a little more understanding I guess. I need my explanations to be understood. I need them to give me time to explain. Actually – I need to not need.
What do you think of them? Make a list.
I think that they are working under the illusion that I am a rational being. I’m not. I think that they think that I hold the answers to me. I do not. I think that they expect me to be better in the future or to improve to the point at which they can like me again. This is becoming increasingly unlikely.
What is it that you don’t ever want to experience with that person, thing, or situation again?
I don’t want experience anger in their presence. I don’t want to be sad around them. I don’t want to feel like a failure.