I can’t talk about people close to me just in case they find out what I think about them.
Now isn’t that a startling statement!
Why wouldn’t I want to open up my heart to the people around me? I mean, I find it easy to say all sorts of things on a public forum so why not to neighbours?
Oh, wait – I got it. There’s a big difference between talking about myself and talking about other people. I’m not scared to tall you about me, I’m scared to tell you what I think about you.
Why? Well maybe because I don’t like everything about everyone. There are some kinds of things I dislike about people and even some kinds of people that I downright don’t like at all.
Don’t worry, you’re not one of those people. I like you simply for the fact that you’ve read as far as this. If you haven’t read this far then I probably don’t like you. But that’s okay, because you’ll never find out.
Unless someone tells you.
But really – what’s wrong with me telling someone that I don’t like something about them? I think it’s because I care what people think about me.
Let me have a think about that …
No, it’s not quite that. It’s more related to fear and power.
Explain? Okay, let me try. When I have power over someone then I don’t care what I say about them. If they have power over me then I care what I say because if I say something bad and hurt them then they have the power to hurt me back. And I don’t want to be hurt. I’m afraid of being hurt and so I try to be nice.
Oh my gosh, I never realise that I was so screwed up!
And I don’t even want to think about what constitutes power and I why I would want to be unkind to people I think I have power over. Arghh!