Here’s a tip for how to get on in life: instead of digging into your problems, check out what you’re doing right and then do more of it.
People have a tendency to focus on what isn’t working and then try to fix it. On one level this seems quite logical; after all, what’s the point in looking at what’s going well? If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right?
Here’s another way of looking at the situation: if you’re getting something good out of method A and something not so good out of method B, which method should you adopt overall? Obviously method A, right?
The trick is to work out a way to use the best method for all situations, because in that way, you will get a better overall result.
So, instead of trying to fix things by poking into the problems, correct them by looking at your successes, and then simply scaling them up.