If you want to know the real core of the being of a person then just listen to them. Don’t guide them, interject on them, question them about something you find interesting or sit there picking your mental nose – just listen intently as if all the secrets of the universe are contained in what you’re hearing; ’cause they are.
Happiness is finding someone who can listen to you. Bliss is finding someone you’re interested in listening to. Heaven is when they are both the same person.