You have to let things go. You have to forgive. In time you might even be able to forget.

People do strange things. Some of those things are bound to annoy you. It’s inevitable. This is because you live by rules. But here’s the thing: no matter how obvious and sensible your rules are to you, other people don’t know what they are. And, even if they do know them, they may not necessarily agree with them. This means that they will break your rules. It’s inevitable.

Sometimes, it’s fine. In fact, most of the time, it’s fine. If someone breaks one of your more trivial rules, like the one you have about walking on a particular side of the pavement (usually the one people drive on (on the road (not the pavement (because that would be a serious breach of rules (particularly if you happen to be on the pavement at the time (or flying above it having been catapulted there by the bonnet of a car)))))) or the one about saying ‘good morning’ if someone says ‘good morning’ to you in the morning then that’s okay. You can overlook and forgive that kind of stuff. But if it’s something more serious, then you have to do some work.

There are, basically, two ways of ‘doing the work’. One involves getting the other person to change, and the other involves changing yourself. The first is difficult and usually involves some kind of force (physical, psychological, emotional, social or some other kind – they all involve force). The second is easier, but only if you decide that it is.

All types of self-change are either easy or difficult according to whether you want them or not. In other words, if you want to change, it’s easy to do so. If you don’t, then it’s not.

Alternatively, you can just blog about it.

4 thoughts on “Forgive

      • It’s a great tool for self-analysis, but even if it didn’t have that role, writing helps anyway. For me it’s a phantasmagorical elastic game, who knows, maybe it will become something else, or it already is something else and I pretend not to see it 😉

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