If you (like me) have done just something energy-sapping (like eaten a big bar of chocolate) then this is for you (and me): recognise your reluctance and ride!
I didn’t want to wash the dishes after lunch, but I did them anyway and the bubbles made me (almost) giggle. I really don’t feel like getting back to work, but I will (straight after I’ve written this). I have a huge amount of resistance to … well, to be honest, finishing this sentence. But, as you see, I did it anyway. And I feel great after having done it!
So, yeah; I know it’s hard to do stuff when you don’t feel like doing it, but be assured (and reassured) that the reluctance doesn’t last the whole way through. Often you just need to start, and the momentum of the movement will take you through. At other times, you’ll feel like stopping before that crucial last act, but if you complete it, then you will feel good. I promise.
But, if all else fails, and you don’t manage to finish what you set out to do (or even start in the first place) then that’s okay too. I still love you, and you should t
Never a plumber nor an electrician be. Nor try to dip your fingers into joinery or cleaning up. In fact, don’t try to stretch yourself at all. Unless, of course, you want to feel good about yourself at the end of the day.
When I complete a project and it has brought benefit to someone, then I feel good.
When I’m able to do something easily and quickly because of the skills I have accumulated over a long period of time, then I feel good.
When I have been given a tricky problem and I solve it (either quickly it eventually), then I feel good.
When I put my head down and work, and look up and realise that I have completed the task, then I feel good.
When I have learned something valuable from my work, then I feel good.
When the paycheck comes in and I don’t even notice, then I feel good.
When I get a day off, paid for by the company, to sit and answer questions like this, then I feel good.
Have you ever found yourself in front of the kind of person who insists on telling you that the world is like a bowl of rotten cherries?
You know the kind – they tell you, for example, that the world is going to to hell in a handbasket and that there’s absolutely nothing that you can do about it and consequently that life is terrible.
And they have such a way with words that you can start to believe them.
I find it difficult to listen to people that talk like that. I prefer to make my own mind up.
I have no right to tell you that life is wonderful or that everything is good. And I can’t even tell you that you should say these things to yourself.
But what I can say is that when I listen to my own conviction that life is good, pleasant, loving, peaceful or positive, then I feel better about my life.
I feel better when I tell myself that I feel better. The more I talk to myself about feeling positive, the more positive I feel. When I say ‘I am happy’ I feel happier.
But don’t just take my word for it. It’s possible to try this for yourself.
Why not have a go? Repeat after me: I love you <say your name>.
How does that make you feel?
In the shower – feeling like a stalk of grass in the hot, summer rain.
On the bed – feeling like a lizard basking in the siesta sunshine.
In God’s hands – feeling strong and solid inside tonight.
Here are some make my brain work better. Who knows – they may work for you too:
- Thinking less. Yes, I know that this sounds suspiciously unintuitive, but before you laugh and click on another link, you should try it. The technique I use is called meditation, which involves focusing on one thing to the exclusion of all others. It doesn’t really matter what you focus on – your breath, the sound of your feet in the pavement, a candle, the smell of your perfume, the taste of chocolate melting in your tongue – pretty much anything. What happens is pretty much akin to running an antivirus scan on your computer and then rebooting it. You’ll find that it shuts down all the unhelpful stuff running through your brain leaving you faster and more efficient.
- Eating a cheese sandwich. I don’t know about you but there’s nothing quite like a plain old cheese sarnie to ground me nicely. If I’ve been eating too much chocolate and my brain is whirring far too quickly without getting anywhere then bread and cheese slows down the hamster on the wheel in my head enough to make my brain more capable of smiling and doing what I really want it to do.
- Sleeping enough, but not too much. I know that this is a really obvious one, but it’s something that works for me so it goes on the list. Have you ever felt tempted to sleep for another hour in the morning, or even snooze the afternoon away? I know that I have. But I always seem to regret it. Unless I have seriously underslept prior to that and am catching up, sleeping extra in the morning (or afternoon) makes me feel tired and dull. If this happens to you though, don’t worry – all is not lost. All you have to do is …
- Drink a glass of water. This is an amazing restorative for me. Dehydration tends to slow me down terribly and when that glass of water goes down, it’s like all the little cells in my brain about ‘yes!’ as they pump their little arms in the air.
And on that note, I’ll leave you to enjoy your day. If any of this works for you – let me know. And if not – what tricks do you have in your toolbox to make you feel fab?